Sharing Like Dragons

“Boo!”

Nothing.

“Boo!!”

Nothing.

“BOO!!”

Still nothing.

Puzzled, the girl turned to her grandmother:

“Why doesn’t Aunty Memem jump when I say “Boo”?”

The girl was my nearly-five year old niece. And this is how she discovered that her aunty is deaf. Oh, she knew that my ears don’t work. She knew to face me when speaking to me. She knew I teach her how to talk with her hands. Sign Language, I call it. Doing Words, she calls it. Either way, she’s actually very good at it.

“Why doesn’t Aunty Memem jump when I say “Boo”?”

And so she discovered what ‘ears that don’t work’ actually mean.

They mean that I can’t hear.

For the rest of the day, and the days that followed, I would catch her looking at me.

Puzzled.

How was it possible that I didn’t hear the sounds she did?

“Can you hear that door slam outside?” she’d ask me, turning to look out of the window.

Or, “Can you hear my baby brother clapping his hands over there?”

As if, by asking enough, she could somehow get the sounds to me.

It broke my heart to see the crestfallen look on her face every time I had to say,

“No, sweetie, I can’t.”

A while later. her grandmother took her to an activity day.

They made masks. Green Dragons. My niece managed to cut out two holes for her eyes to see through. Which was all that was necessary. Dragons don’t really have mouths, apparently. Except for one dragon, that is.

She began cutting out a third hole.

“I’d better cut a hole for my mouth. Otherwise Aunty Memem won’t know what I’m saying. She needs to see my lips because she can’t hear.”

She’d asked and asked and asked if I heard various noises.

She’d tried to change the fact that I couldn’t hear.

But she realised that she couldn’t.

So she changed what she could.

She’d already cut out two holes.

And I know from past observation that little fingers find scissors quite tricky.

Yet she persevered with the third.

Because she could.

She could do something to help me.

So she decided that she would.

Share each other’s burdens, and in this way obey the law of Christ.

Galatians 6:2